One of the tools to help you get away from negativity (what you do NOT want) and focus on positivity (what you DO want) is the method that race car drivers use for staying alive. When one learns to drive a race car, the most important thing is to learn how to avoid hitting the wall if you get into a spin. Hitting the wall can be fatal. As you are driving at high speeds around the track, the instructor will pull a lever at some point that puts the car into a spin towards the wall. What happens next?

The natural tendency is to look at the wall so you can steer away from it. However, the instructor knows that what you focus on, you will go toward! So she will first tell you to look at the open space, and then forcibly push your chin towards the open space so that the car will start to go in that direction. Helicopter pilots learn something similar when in a spin: look at the sky, not the ground, to avoid hitting the ground.

In this analogy the open space represents what you DO want, the wall represents what you do NOT want, i.e. thoughts that are causing you stress, anxiety, fear, or doubt. That presupposes you are clear about what you want and what the picture in your head looks like with a positive outcome. Once that ideal result is clear, train your mind to go there as soon as it goes towards the negativity. Over time it will happen faster and faster, and you will avoid the wall and feel happier!